The Six Realms of Existence And One Little Dog

Bhavacakra via Wikimedia commons
Bhavacakra via Wikimedia commons

Theres a concept in Tibetan Buddhism (and I think used in other Buddhist traditions) called the Wheel Of Life.  It’s a great mandala, showing the cycles of the world, clutched in the hands of Yama, lord of death.  It’s a vast, symbolic work that you could spend ages analyzing as it represents the sources of suffering, the nature of living beings, and the liberation off the wheel.

Most notable – and famous – are the various realms of existence portrayed on the wheel.  The lore states that there are six realms one can be born in:

Devas – The gods.  Beings who enjoy bliss and pleasure and power.  However, Devas do age and die, and their happiness often means they don’t develop wisdom or compassion.

Asuras – The Angry Gods, sometimes translated as “Titans”.  They conted with the Devas.  Powerful, fierce, and forceful they’re also jealous and paranoid.

Humans – That’s us.  We’re usually ignorant, but also are in a balanced world and state where we can learn wisdom, compassion, and get off the Wheel via enlightenment.  We’ve got anger and bliss and so forth, but it’s not overwhelming or crippling.

Animals – The realm of creatures of instinct.  Animals tend to prefer sameness, indulge desire, and often lack humor.

Hungry Ghosts – The realm of addiction.  Hungry Ghosts are mournful spirits haunting various desolate parts of the world, seeking to consume things they desire and unable to enjoy them.  Scary-looking, they’re rather pathetic creatures.

Hell Beings – The realm of fear and anger.  Hell beings are born to torment in this horrible realm.

Metaphysically it’s an interesting cosmology, but it can also be viewed as metaphorical – that these are different psychological states we can experience.  I’ve seen the psychological model talked about by a number of people, such as Mark Epstein and Pema Chodron; it’s really fascinating.

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Decide What Not To Do In Your Job Search

Whenever I coach people on job searching, they usually feel overwhelmed.  They have many options, many possibilities – and many things to panic about and be terrified of.  There’s so many things to get done and so many potential problems to head off that they freak out, shut down, or burn themselves out.  Sometimes they manage all three (in about that order).

We’re taught more is always better.  More of this.  More of that.  More apps.  More memory.  We miss that more is not always good, better, or desirable, but I think that’s a larger cultural/economic issue to discuss another time and another blog.

So here’s a very important piece of advice for you in your job search – and indeed your career.

Decide what not to do.

No, I’m serious, you can’t do it all.  So you have to make strategic decisions to say ‘no’ to something and mean it.

Sure, you can probably do anything.  You’re a geek like me and the rest of the Justice League of Weirdos here.  You’re smart, talented, wired, and probably charged up on caffiene.

But still you can’t do everything.

If you try and do everything, you’ll miss the important things.

If you try and do everything, you won’t do the important things as well as you should.

If you try and do everything, you’re more likely to waste time.

If you try and do everything, you can’t keep track of it all.

If you try and do everything, you will burn out.

Trust me on this.  I’ve seen it.  I’ve heard of it.  A few times, I’ve even done it.  This is why last job search I set boundaries on my time and kept an appropriate focus.  It kept me very sane during a crazy period.

So when you look at your job search strategy, you need to decide:

  • When something isn’t working or appropriate – so you can stop.
  • When a piece of advice, technique, tool, or job board isn’t worth it – so you remove it from your plans.
  • Why you are not doing some of these things – so you don’t keep going over it in your head.

What you don’t do is just as important as what you do in a job search.  To give you a few examples from my own life:

  • When I had decided to move out of a particular area, I identified specific regions I wanted to live in and targeted them.  It made sure I was focused, could learn where to move, got to know markets, and didn’t have to worry later if I wanted to live some where.
  • I have excluded given companies and industries from my search as I have no interest in them.  It’s not worth my time for something I know I wouldn’t like.
  • I have excluded certain websites from job searches as they didn’t help.  Better to miss one opportunity than waste an hour better spent.
  • I had to decide on what networking to do since you can’t meet everyone.

Decide what not to do.  The lack of things will make what you are doing much more likely to succeed.

– Steven Savage

Steven Savage is a Geek 2.0 writer, speaker, blogger, and job coach.  He blogs on careers at http://www.fantopro.com/, nerd and geek culture at http://www.nerdcaliber.com/, and does a site of creative tools at http://www.seventhsanctum.com/. He can be reached at https://www.stevensavage.com/.

 

 

In Memory of Lucy, 1995-2013

LucyPictureToday, unfortunately, I had to put my dog Lucy to sleep.

Lucy was a Yorkshire Terrier, aged 18 at her passing – yes, 18. She was running down having lived so long, and when I saw her fading physically and mentally, I made the difficult call.

I had lucy for 14 years, most shared with my wife of the time. 14 years is amazing to have a dog, and a life of 18 years is incredible. She was a scrappy, tough dog that I loved a lot.

And I could mourn or cry, but really I wanted to mention what a great dog she was.

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